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Is Happiness the biggest joke ever played on mankind?

What? I know, what am I saying, right?

Happiness is actually the biggest joke we ever played on ourselves, because we changed “happy” to a noun. We made it a thing. Something that can be lost, unattainable, or taken from us. We made it a goal. That is not what being happy is all about.

Being happy is a choice, a decision, the greatest adjective in the English dictionary! No one can take it from you, and you don’t have to search for it.

You don’t have to find happy. You just have to be it, and that is much easier.

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Can You Really Be Anything You Want?

When I was a young boy I told my Grandpa Lee (my mother’s step-dad)  that I wanted to grow up to be a professional baseball player. I had always wanted to be a baseball player. It was my childhood dream.

So you can imagine how disappointed I was when my grandfather responded, “That is a dumb idea. Do you know how few people become baseball players?”

"One in a million," he said.

Your Great-Grandpa Lee wasn’t a mean man, but he had his beliefs. One of them was to not waste time pursuing the impossible. Was he right, though?

No, I don’t think he was.

Maybe there are limitations to what we can be, but sometimes the end goal is not where the reward lies. Often times the reward lies in all that is achieved as we try. Where people go wrong is only half-committing to their dream. Guys that sit around playing in a garage band smoking pot, always talking about becoming a success. That’s not going after your dream.

The girl that dreams of becoming a Supreme Court Justice and applies to the best colleges, gets accepted to an okay college, passes the bar on her second try, and becomes just an okay lawyer. That is who I am talking about. Did she really waste her life?

Or to go back to my first example, the guy who starts a band that eventually breaks up, so he starts another band, plays local shows, and survives on the side playing at weddings and giving kids private music lessons. Did he waste his life?

I don’t think so, and had I chosen to go after my childhood dream (had it not changed) only to play mediocre college baseball, go back to college, study sports, and work as a minor league trainer, I don’t think that would have been a waste either.

The point is I don’t think you are ever wasting your life son, if you are truly dedicating it to what you want to do. Just don’t half-ass it, and never let me get away with trying to discourage you.

Oh, and in case you are wondering what my childhood dream became? To be a father! ;)

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The Money Chase

My plan is to show you this blog when you are about 20 years old. If I stick to that and you are reading this as a young man, perhaps you are thinking about what you want to strive for in life. If so, there is something I want you to consider.

If your strive to chase money son - as many do - you are going to find it is a goal you never see to fruition. Sure, you will probably make a lot of it and you will probably buy a lot with it. But there will always be more to buy and hence, more money you will need to make.

In short, you will never reach the end.

However, your children will grow up … your body will grow old … and the people you love will die. This is inevitable, and one day you will reach the end of your life. When that day comes, how will you feel about the goal you chose to pursue?

I know, maybe it is a drag to think about now. Well, don’t worry. Breathe a sign of relief, because you are only 20 years old son. You haven’t wasted your life chasing money … in fact, you are just beginning it! So take a minute to think about what I have said. Think about the example I and your mother have shown.

Spend time with your children while they are young, spend time with the people you love, and do things that truly make you happy. Do this and you will be happy son.

Please, do not choose to spend your life trapped in the money chase.

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Life Tip #34 - How to Squeeze Your Tube of Toothpaste

I don’t know why they continue to make squeezable tubes of toothpaste, but as long as they do you can bet people will be struggling to get the last of it out! And couples will continue to argue over how the other squeezes it.

So if they haven’t fixed this problem by the time you read this, don’t worry. There is an easy fix.

Place the tube on a flat surface. Take your toothbrush and turn it around. Press the toothbrush handle flat across the bottom of the tube of toothpaste. Squeeze evenly across the tube until all the toothpaste gathers at the top.

I know. This is pretty amazing stuff, isn’t it? ;),

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Just Do It

Way before you were born, Nike came up with a slogan for their advertising campaign: “Just Do It.” There were always cool television commercials with a montage of awesome sports moments or amazing achievements. It was good, and it made you want to go out and do something amazing.

I always liked the slogan, because I always thought it is one of the hardest things to do - to just do something. It is easier to procrastinate, to plan, and to think about things. But at some point you have to commit. You have to get off your ass, you have to put pen to paper … you have to just do it. And too many people won’t.

In work, in relationships, and in life this will matter a great deal son. You will find yourself in situations where the only thing left to do is take action, and for some reason you won’t want to. Maybe nobody will.

When those times come - and they will - just think about those three simple words in the title of this blog post, and follow them. Trust yourself. Trust life. Trust that the worst that can happen can’t be that bad. And just do it.

Trust me.

You’ll figure out the rest as it comes, or you will screw it up. Either of the two is better than doing nothing.

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Hello Charlie, by Grandpa Harry
I am your grandfather, Harry. I figure you will be around twelve before your dad forces you to read this, so I am going to speak to you as if you are already twelve.
In the great city of Thebes, the golden scroll of Thoth was unearthed. This would be the same scroll that Isis used to bring Osiris back from the dead … thought I would begin with a real attention grabber! ;)
In reality nobody returns from the dead! So you have to say everything you would like to say to that person while they are alive! So here it goes. You are already getting a great jump into this world because of your parentage, so do not squander it. Let them help you to become the person you desire to be. Do not fear anything that does not hold the capacity to kill you - everyone can take a beating or a bruised ego. Do not confuse love with infatuation. They are two totally different emotions that seem the same. Although I have found that infatuation you feel with your body, while love you feel with your entire being. Find something you’re very good at and go for it with every ounce of vigor you can draw upon. Your dad will explain what vigor is. I think it was a “word of the day” when he was thirteen.
Try to have as many friends as possible, but none who are better looking than yourself. You do not want to catch your girlfriend making out with one of them. Be careful of all your actions towards other people. When you are done living, all you will be is a memory. Whether you are a good one, or bad one, will be up to you!
Now have a good life!!!!!
Love,grandpa

Hello Charlie, by Grandpa Harry

I am your grandfather, Harry. I figure you will be around twelve before your dad forces you to read this, so I am going to speak to you as if you are already twelve.

In the great city of Thebes, the golden scroll of Thoth was unearthed. This would be the same scroll that Isis used to bring Osiris back from the dead … thought I would begin with a real attention grabber! ;)

In reality nobody returns from the dead! So you have to say everything you would like to say to that person while they are alive! So here it goes. You are already getting a great jump into this world because of your parentage, so do not squander it. Let them help you to become the person you desire to be. Do not fear anything that does not hold the capacity to kill you - everyone can take a beating or a bruised ego. Do not confuse love with infatuation. They are two totally different emotions that seem the same. Although I have found that infatuation you feel with your body, while love you feel with your entire being. Find something you’re very good at and go for it with every ounce of vigor you can draw upon. Your dad will explain what vigor is. I think it was a “word of the day” when he was thirteen.

Try to have as many friends as possible, but none who are better looking than yourself. You do not want to catch your girlfriend making out with one of them. Be careful of all your actions towards other people. When you are done living, all you will be is a memory. Whether you are a good one, or bad one, will be up to you!

Now have a good life!!!!!

Love,grandpa

Filed under Parents Grandparents Thoth Thebes Isis Osiris Egypt Scrolls History Vigor Word of the Day Education Grammar Life Lessons Friends Memories Death Fear Confidence

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This Week’s Guest Blogger - Grandpa Snyder
The first thing I should tell you about your grandfather is that when you are a kid, he is very fun to be around. Your grandfather has a way with kids. He’s good at entertaining them, listening to them, and is a magnificent teacher. He is one of the few people that will talk to you like an adult, even if you are just ten years old … and that is a great feeling. That said, he is much better with kids than he is adults.
When I became an adult, I began to have a hard time communicating with him and our relationship deteriorated. We didn’t talk for almost two years by the time I started this blog, and I resented him for that. Part of that resentment meant I started to pay more attention to his flaws, than I did his qualities.
However, one day a guy I worked with in Afghanistan named “Rick” (a guy a little like your grandfather) taught me an important lesson. Rick knew that your Grandpa Harry’s dad left when he was just 3-years-old, and that his mother died when he was just 14. Rick had also heard me tell stories of all the cool things my dad had done with me growing up. Rick told me that a father could only work with what he knows, and could only do his best to raise his children better than he was. In Rick’s opinion (based on what I told him), my dad had not done so bad, considering what he had been given and all he had given me.
Rick’s point struck me, because although I was thinking of all your grandfather’s flaws at the time, there wasn’t a doubt in my mind he had  done better than his father. I was certain of that. He was always there when I needed him,and he taught me a lot. There is a stark difference that exist between his childhood and mine, not to mention the difference there will be between his and yours. Not bad for just two generations.
I think after my conversation with Rick I realized that while it’s okay for children to idolize their parents and think they are perfect, at some point we have to grow up and stop expecting them to be perfect. We have to consider what they had, what they were able to accomplish, and maybe even ask ourselves if we could have done better. I think you’ll find in just this week alone that Grandpa Harry didn’t do bad. And in many ways, the evidence expands well beyond the six days that follow.
That said, enjoy this week’s guest blogger … Grandpa Harry.

This Week’s Guest Blogger - Grandpa Snyder

The first thing I should tell you about your grandfather is that when you are a kid, he is very fun to be around. Your grandfather has a way with kids. He’s good at entertaining them, listening to them, and is a magnificent teacher. He is one of the few people that will talk to you like an adult, even if you are just ten years old … and that is a great feeling. That said, he is much better with kids than he is adults.

When I became an adult, I began to have a hard time communicating with him and our relationship deteriorated. We didn’t talk for almost two years by the time I started this blog, and I resented him for that. Part of that resentment meant I started to pay more attention to his flaws, than I did his qualities.

However, one day a guy I worked with in Afghanistan named “Rick” (a guy a little like your grandfather) taught me an important lesson. Rick knew that your Grandpa Harry’s dad left when he was just 3-years-old, and that his mother died when he was just 14. Rick had also heard me tell stories of all the cool things my dad had done with me growing up. Rick told me that a father could only work with what he knows, and could only do his best to raise his children better than he was. In Rick’s opinion (based on what I told him), my dad had not done so bad, considering what he had been given and all he had given me.

Rick’s point struck me, because although I was thinking of all your grandfather’s flaws at the time, there wasn’t a doubt in my mind he had  done better than his father. I was certain of that. He was always there when I needed him,and he taught me a lot. There is a stark difference that exist between his childhood and mine, not to mention the difference there will be between his and yours. Not bad for just two generations.

I think after my conversation with Rick I realized that while it’s okay for children to idolize their parents and think they are perfect, at some point we have to grow up and stop expecting them to be perfect. We have to consider what they had, what they were able to accomplish, and maybe even ask ourselves if we could have done better. I think you’ll find in just this week alone that Grandpa Harry didn’t do bad. And in many ways, the evidence expands well beyond the six days that follow.

That said, enjoy this week’s guest blogger … Grandpa Harry.

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The Most Amazing Thing I Have Ever Learned - Part 1

I was reading a book by Stephen Hawking titled “The Grand Design,” when I learned about the game of “Life.” Hawking’s book was blowing my mind, so I almost jumped out of my seat when I read a part I thought I knew something about.

"The Game of Life," I thought. "I know that game!" (Unfortunately, I was thinking of the board game I played when I was a kid.)

I read on, and soon discovered the game had nothing to do with the board game I knew, but rather the two-dimensional zero-player “game” that is explained in the video above (and blog posts to follow).

How amazed I was at the implication, that life is only as complicated as our inability to comprehend it. That, instead of life being supernatural, it is a countless number of molecules responding to the known natural laws of our universe. Laws very easy for us to understand, yet the effects of which are had on millions of particles, impossible for us to predict.

What you will see over the next few days is first an explanation of the game of Life, from John Conway himself, followed by examples of what others have discovered in his game. Perhaps three posts dedicated to it is overkill, but that is just how impressed I am by it. For example, when the boxes start moving with a separation of the prime numbers … incredible!

By the end, you will hear someone say, “There is no need for design,” or something to the effect. Don’t let that distract you. My intent is not to make you lose belief in God.

Instead I just want to share with you the coolest thing I ever learned, and make you believe in the miracles that exist in the natural world that surrounds you.

Filed under Life Game Laws Nature Natural Science Education God James Conway Physics Quantum Stephen Hawking Grand Design The Grand Design Books religion Cats Molecules Space Big Bang

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Why We Have Kids
There is a lot of discussion about why people choose to have children. After all, they are a financial drag, they consume our lives, and often times don’t appreciate their parents who sacrificed everything to raise them.
Whatever.
I used to consider that discussion, but now I know exactly why we have children. It is because it is the purest form of love one can experience, and it is incredible. I have spent the first 6 months of your life talking to you over FaceTime and Skype, having only seen you in person for just a few weeks, and I still have come to think of you as the greatest thing that has ever happened to your mom and me. The feeling is incomparable, and it fills our hearts with gratification. We love you more than anything.
That’s why people have kids Charlie, because it is the only way they will ever know that kind of happiness.
… well, that and because sometimes they fail to use protection. ;)

Why We Have Kids

There is a lot of discussion about why people choose to have children. After all, they are a financial drag, they consume our lives, and often times don’t appreciate their parents who sacrificed everything to raise them.

Whatever.

I used to consider that discussion, but now I know exactly why we have children. It is because it is the purest form of love one can experience, and it is incredible. I have spent the first 6 months of your life talking to you over FaceTime and Skype, having only seen you in person for just a few weeks, and I still have come to think of you as the greatest thing that has ever happened to your mom and me. The feeling is incomparable, and it fills our hearts with gratification. We love you more than anything.

That’s why people have kids Charlie, because it is the only way they will ever know that kind of happiness.

… well, that and because sometimes they fail to use protection. ;)

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